How to Know If You Are the Protagonist, the Villain, or the Spectator of Your Own Life
In the story of your life, you are the central
character. But are you the protagonist who takes the reins, the villain who
sabotages their own path, or the spectator who watches without acting? This
role is not fixed: it changes according to your decisions, your internal dialogue,
and how you face challenges. However, identifying your predominant role will
help you understand what drives you and what holds you back.
Life is a play where decisions, or the lack
thereof, shape your destiny. Being the protagonist means leading your story.
Being the villain means acting out of pain or guilt. Being the spectator means
letting life pass by. And most importantly: you can change your role if you
decide to rewrite your script.
How to Identify Your Role
- Protagonist:
You act, decide, and take responsibility for the consequences. You don't
wait for things to happen; you create your own path. When you make
mistakes, you learn and move forward.
- Villain:
You sabotage your own progress, either with destructive decisions or
negative self-talk. This role often arises from pain, fear, or guilt.
- Spectator:
You live on autopilot. You let circumstances or others' decisions guide
you. You feel disconnected, as if your life doesn't belong to you.
How to Become the Protagonist of Your Life Again
- Take Responsibility:
Stop blaming the past, others, or circumstances. Ask yourself: "What
can I do today to change my situation?"
- Question Your Internal
Dialogue: If your mind tells you "You can't"
or "You don't deserve it," ask yourself: "Is this true, or
is it a belief that limits me?"
- Make Small Decisions:
Being the protagonist isn't about making grand heroic gestures but taking
control in small daily choices.
If you feel your life is directionless or you keep
sabotaging yourself, a therapeutic process can help you find clarity. Therapy
is the space where you can discover what role you are playing and how to
rewrite your story to become the true protagonist.
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